Tuesday, June 25, 2013

Easter






Romina, Analina and Grace~ Enjoying MEAT & SODA on Easter Sunday


Easter Sunday was a celebration of food, just like it is at home. After a three hour church service, we head to our neighbors. They are a German couple who live here with their three daughters, they've been living here for about six months. You can imagine how popular these little muzungu girls are! We carried over plates and forks, we carried benches and chairs, we carried over the beans that Ava made, the G.nut sauce and the chapatti’s. Immaculate made fresh juice, the most beautiful juice in the world. We brought the small end tables to eat on and we carried the food in big pots and pans. The two English girls who also live nearby brought the rice and the cabbage salad. All of the usual food was served, plus MEAT and a couple of "extras"! I tried to make a chocolate sauce, they all claimed it was delicious, it was very runny!
The "spread"

The meal was lovely. Vivian and Julius and their three kids were also there. Mika and Beth, an American couple that had just returned to Uganda to live were also there. We feasted and chatted, after lunch we played games. Claire and Charlotte, the two English girls, were full of silly games to play. The Africans found every game hilarious and exciting. Even the adults love the games, maybe even more than the children. They don't play many organized games so it's always a challenge to explain the rules and then see how it turns out. We played musical chairs, my personal favorite. We played a game so ridiculous it was hilarous, it is called "Ha". We laughed so hard at the absurdity of it. They had four people standing on a square of newspaper the size of an adult’s hand. We were hugging and groping each other trying to stay on the little piece of newspaper long to enough to beat the other teams. Eventually we carried all of the furniture back to our house in the rain and relaxed for the rest of the afternoon. Even though I attempted to make the chocolate sauce to drizzle over the fruit, I couldn’t stop thinking about the bowl of chocolates that my Grandmother would have brought, claiming it was from the Easter bunny, if I were at home right now. Even the veggie tray with carrot sticks and the creamy, salty dip would be incredible right now!
Jael in her paper hat.

Amelia with her pet rabbit, "Felix".



Easter Monday we were invited to Alex and Betty's house for lunch. Alex is the director of Amazing Grace and also the brother to Habert, with whom I live. Lunch was at 2:00, so we showed up around 3:00 and I’m thinking we’re late. Upon arrival Immaculate immediately sets to work washing the dishes, so we would have plates to eat off of. Didn't they know we were coming, I wonder to myself?!
Immaculate washing dishes











Uncle Alex, Balam, Elizabeeth and Ezra eating lunch at Alex & Betty's house.


About an hour later, somewhere around 4 p.m., as my stomach is singing a ballad, we have lunch. We have the same dishes that we always have, we just have every dish that we always have today. We have potatoes, matoke, g-nut, beans, rice and of course, it’s a special day, so we have MEAT. Immaculate also made a delicious cake. She had to build two fires, one on the bottom and one on the top of a big steel box. Once the fire was good and hot, she baked the cakes inside of the box oven. They are short, round cakes, but she’s stacked two together. She made a delicious, sweet icing from powdered sugar, then she added coffee grounds to a little bit and very carefully wrote, “God is Good” in brown icing across the top of the cake. At least that’s what she told me it said! The kids sit on a mat on the floor. I’m incredibly impressed with Esther’s English. She is the ten year old niece of Immaculate and Habert. She says things like, “Isn’t it a lovely Easter Day?” I say, “Yes, it certainly is a nice Easter day.” She smiles at me as we sit on the couch together. “Where did you learn such good English?” I ask her. She tells me that she studied in Kabale before they moved here. She’s the oldest in the family, so I’m sure part of her maturity is the fact that she’s partially raising her three younger brothers and probably also has many responsibilities around the house. After lunch I sit on the couch while Esther braids my hair for hours. She’s putting tons of tiny, little braids all over my head. Immaculate, Aunt Betty and Ester’s mom, Aunt Evelyn are all there chatting away. They switch from Rufumbira to English and back and forth again. As Elizabeth, the four year old daughter of Alex and Betty is doing handstands in her dress against the back of the chair, Aunt Betty says, “See, this is why she can’t make her holy communion yet.” I smile to myself and think of my nieces and I doing hundreds of handstands against the door at my mom’s house. I guess I’m not mature enough to receive Holy Communion either…not yet! 

Esther and I



Aunt Evelyn is a nurse and she seems to be a modern thinker, she surprises me when they start talking about how inappropriate it is for girls to play football. I’ve been biting my tongue for a good part of the past few hours, so I decide it’s time I ask a few questions “Why is it inappropriate?” I ask, oh-so-innocently. Aunt Evelyn looks at me and says, “Do you understand anatomy?” I tell her that “yes, I do understand anatomy”. I also tell her many girls really enjoy playing football. Many of them are very good at it as well. I tell her that it’s good exercise and if it makes the girls happy they should be encouraged to play football. Immaculate smiles at me, I’ve noticed she’s also been biting her tongue throughout the afternoon. The conversation continues, I look at Esther and think what a shame, this girl will never even have a chance to play sports.   

Eventually we all move outside, we check out the new guest room in the back. When I was here last week, it was just a brick structure, now it’s complete, with a bed and curtain. The bathing area is also complete, a little cement closet with a drain. We decide the girls should take some photos together. We make silly faces and this sends them laughing hysterically, we take more and the kids gather around our feet, they want to be a part of it, but, once again, the adults are having too much fun themselves to include the children. The little screen on the digital camera amuses us for far too long. It’s going to be dark soon, so we set off walking. Immaculate and Evelyn walk like turtles as Esther and I walk ahead of them. She is talking away, she shows me her school and tells me about her teacher. We dodge the bicycles loaded with boards that should have an, “extra wide” load sign flashing in front of them. We take about an hour to walk what would have taken me about 20 minutes to walk, but I’ve enjoyed my company. We say good-night, we praise God just once more and I promise to see Esther soon. She reminds me so much of my nieces, just a happy-go-lucky, brilliant girl.

Funny Faces Photo Shoot!

Had them in stitches!





Monday, June 17, 2013

Christine

Christine working hard on her letters.

Today I took Christine to the eye Doctor. We arrived around 9:20 to a crowd of waiting patients. Many of them were waiting in front of other doors, the door labeled "Eye Clinic" only had about ten people outside of it. We sat down and waited for the Dr. to arrive, whatever time that might be. Another muzungu shows up with an albino girl, they took the liberty of standing directly in front of the door to ensure they'd be the first patients seen. We watch as an old man is carried in by two younger men, a child limps in on an injured ankle and a woman carries her screaming baby back and forth as she waits for her turn to be seen. By 10:00 we were called in, when the Dr. saw me, she beckoned us in. I felt funny jumping in front of everyone else, but when the Dr. calls, you go! The Doctor asked us what exactly the problem was. I explained that when she's reading it seems like she can't see the words and she acts as if my finger is in the way, even though it's not. She had her stand on the line on the floor and asked her to cover her left eye. Christine recited the first line perfectly, the second line she was stuck on the first letter, the letter was "N". I suggested she go to the next letter, which was "Z" since we know she knows that letter from the first line. She proceeded all the way down the chart. She called the letter "P" a "B" each and every time. She didn't know the letter "F" each time she came to it, otherwise she did perfectly all the way down to the very last row, which was too small for her or I to see. When she switched to the other eye, she stumbled on the same letters. The Dr. asked me if she was "stable", I said, "yes, I think so." Then I asked her why she asked. She explained that she's seeing "strange behavior" in her.  "Like what?" I ask. She tells me that when she asks her why she can't read those letters that she stumbles on Christine tells her that she "forgot" them. I ask the Doctor if she knows of dyslexia? She's says, "that's a new one to me". I explain that sometimes the eyes turn things around and that people actually see things backwards or even upside down. She continues on with the exam, forcefully telling Christine, "help me to help you", as she pushes her hand over her eye for her as Christine tries to cheat and peek out from under the hand. Next she uses a light and shines it in her eyes, then she asks me if she can read the blackboard.  I tell her I don't know and I explain that when we read books is when I see her struggling and noticed the problem. She again mentions that she doesn't seem stable and she tells me to come back on Friday and to bring her mother with us. Since her mother knows her and her behavior, she thinks she can get a better sense of the situation. "But what did you conclude from the exam?" I ask. "What did you see in her eyes with the light?" She tells me everything looks fine but now they are going to the theater (the operating room) and that I should come back on Friday, when they can do some testing for "refraction". She is not giving any treatment at this point and she scribbles something on the notebook paper that I scratched Christine's name and age on while waiting outside. I noticed everyone else holding a paper and asked about it, the man next to me instructed me to write her name, age and her school. I handed the Dr. the piece of notebook paper when we walked in. This paper is the record of the visit. There are no hospital records and if the Dr. gives a prescription or instructions it is written on this paper and is the patients responsibility to retain.

Much to my surprise Christine and I leave the hospital by 10:30. We walk to town, I have to go to the post office to pick up a package. I stopped this morning, the doors were open and I saw a package with my name on it sitting on the counter. I yelled and yelled, "Hello? Hello!" but no one was there. When I stopped Tuesday morning around 10 a.m. the doors to the post office were locked. I asked the man shining shoes outside why the post office was closed today, and he shrugged. Some things have no explanations or reasons, they just are. Christine walks like a turtle, like most Africans do. Nothing but time, and there's no such thing as a hurry. I notice she is wearing shoes that are about 3 sizes too big for her. They are plastic slip-ons, similar to the jelly shoes we used to wear when I was a kid. The backs are cut off of them so they are more like a slipper hanging on her feet that drag with each step.

Yesterday the director and I walked to her home to tell her mother that I wanted to take her to the eye Dr. her mother wasn't home, we just found Christine and a handful of young kids hanging around. The home is one room, it is made of poles, then filled in with mud. Director Alex explained to me that this family was very poor, I had no idea just how poor. The mother and five children live in this one room mud house. It is decent sized, but there is nothing inside of it. They sleep on grass mats, covered with thin sheets. The mother's only job is "digging", also known as a peasant, or a person who grows crops on their land. This is the only income for this family of six. The father "ran off".
Christine in front of her home.


We leisurely stroll into town, when we arrive at the post office the doors are closed again. I really want that package TODAY. It is the pen pal letters from my cousin in Minnesota and today is the last day of school before students all over Uganda go on a three week break before the next term starts. If they don't reply to the letters and send them back before their break the students back in MN won't receive them until mid-May and then, of course, they'll be going on summer vacation. We walk down the street and I see a dress hanging in a shop. I ask to see it and hold it up to Christine. She's wearing a torn and tattered skirt, with the orange button-up shirt of her school uniform. There's one dress that fits her perfectly, there's another that's too big, she really likes the big one. I rationalize that she won't grow out of it too quickly and I buy it for her. We also buy a 1/2 kilo of sugar, soap for washing clothes, bread and a backpack to put it all in. I pick the pink and gray backpack up and she seems indifferent about it. Then she sees the spider-man one behind it and her face lights up. I spend the $4. and we pack all her goodies into her bag. Her English is very limited, she's spent the morning speaking to me in broken/mixed languages. She starts in English, "He says you wantua mwabi  ingisoro." I laugh and say, "English Christine. What is wantua mwabi ingisor?" She says, "yes!" So we mostly walk in silence. Now she's getting the hang of this shopping spree as she points to a pair of black dress shoes and says "Muzungu, socks!" I ask her if she wants shoes and socks. She smiles as we walk into the shop. I pick a pair of green canvas sneakers, but she is adamant about the black dress shoes. She tries them on, discreetly slipping her foot out of her plastic sandal and sliding it quickly into the dress shoe. When I press on the toe to see how roomy they are I notice her cringe a little. She insists that they fit and they feel fine. She quickly takes them off, slips her sandals back on and slides them into her backpack, all before I have even asked how much they are. The man tells me 30,000 Shillings, which is about $12. I’m sure it’s way too much so I try to talk him down but he holds firm. I get him down to 28,000. I know I can’t possibly tell Christine to take them out of her bag now. I’m also sure she’s never owned a real pair of shoes before. I mean a closed-toe pair,  that aren’t plastic. So I pay him the $11. and we go. She spots a man pushing a bicycle with a giant rack on the back of it. He is selling everything under the sun, including handkerchiefs, sunglasses, watches, hats, photo albums and most importantly…socks. We find a pair of white dress socks and she is happy.
The bicycle with a shop on top, where we bought Christine's socks.
We walk back to the post office and she’s trying to tell me something about her hair. I tell her we’re “finished” shopping and she stops talking about it. I’m not certain, but I think she’s asking me for some hair extensions. People spend a lot of money, that they don't have, on their hair here.. An African’s hair is very hard and course, so if you don’t want short, buzzed off hair you usually have a “weave” or “extensions” attatched to your head. As we walk up to the post office I see the doors are open, I walk quickly ahead of her, excited to see if Henry is really there. She comes in after me as I stand and wait for Henry to gather the paperwork that I need to sign. There are about four different forms I need to fill out to pick up the package. Christine sits next to me on the bench as we wait and I ask to see her feet. She doesn’t understand me, or she pretends not to as I point at her foot. She reluctantly lets me slip her shoe off and I am not prepared for what I see. The ends of her toes look as if they have been through a blender. I had never smelled the odor of rotting flesh before. It is a shocking and putrid assault to my senses. I put her shoe back on and ask her if it is painful. She again doesn’t understand me. I ask her if it’s “paining” and she seems confused and embarrassed about the situation. I stand up and finish my business with Henry with tears in my eyes. We carry the package out of the "posta" and head directly to the pharmacy. When I tell Christine to take off her shoe again, she looks at me with daggers. I know she’s embarrassed about it, but I also know we need to do something about her feet or she may not be walking by the time she turns eleven. The Pharmacist takes a look at her feet then calls for her supervisor. They send us back down the street and tell us what we need is found at the farm supply store. I ask her what the damage is from and she tells me "jiggers". I think of the two I had in my toes and how unpleasant it was to remove them. I wonder how many Christine must have had embedded in her toes and I also wonder who digs them out for her. We slowly make our way back the way we just came to the farm supply store. I explain that we need something for jiggers. He grabs a small bottle and tells me to dilute it with water. It clearly states on the bottle not to let it come in contact with the skin. I ask where we put it and he explains it's for the ground, the floor of the house. Then he decides we need a bigger bottle. I'm sure Christine's mother can't read so I make sure he explains to her how it is to be used. He also writes the directions in the local language for her older brother. I try to ask how long it will last, how often it needs to be done, but the man doesn't seem to understand my question. As we leave I wonder if they'll actually use it, if they'll actually get the three liters of water and mix the solution to de-jigger their home.

We head back to school, her backpack is stuffed with goodies, including bread and avocados we put in on top. As we approach school I tell her "sshhhhhhh" don't tell. I can picture every kid in school, "Muzungu, give me shoes, give me bread....!" I explain to the director that we need to go back to the Dr. on Friday and he tells Christine to be at school at 9:00 on Friday morning with her mother.  I spend the rest of the day in the 6th grade classroom. I hand out their pen pal letters, they are ecstatic. Not only did they get responses from their friends in America, but each letter had a photo of their new friend stapled to it. They thought that was incredible and the box was FULL of colored pencils, crayons and glue. I had to explain what pizza is, what wrestling is and what squirrels are! They colored and wrote for the next couple of hours. When they still weren't finished by the time 5:00 came and I wanted to leave I promised to collect the papers in the morning and get them in the mail the following day, which would be their last day of school for three weeks. The place was a mad house with excitement. When I asked the students what they were going to do on their holiday, every single students answer was the same. "Help my parents with domestic work." "Like what?" I asked, "what kind of domestic work?" Every student, no matter the age is going to spend the next three weeks digging in the garden, weeding the garden, cooking, washing clothes and visiting their friends, grandparents or relatives. I ask them if they'll also be relaxing, they laugh and tell me yes, but I’m not sure when they’ll squeeze that it.

On Friday, when I show up at school to meet Christine, I am not surprised to find that no one is there. The gate is closed and I have to squeeze through the gap, I find two third graders inside. I ask them what they are doing and they tell me they are looking for the director to get their "holiday package". Their holiday package is schoolwork for them to do while on holiday. I give them each a samosa and I squeeze back out through the gate and head to Christine's home. She is sitting outside with five little kids when I arrive. As soon as she sees me, she gets up and heads to her house. She goes in and changes into her new dress while I wait outside. Her brother comes out, I ask if they got the soap and sugar and he says, "soap". Something about him seems really strange to me. I give him and another little boy there the last two samosas from my backpack. The little one gobbles his up while Bosco, the older brother doesn't seem very interested in it. He casually walks around me and takes the sunscreen out of the side-pouch of my backpack, he opens it, then puts it back. Christine comes out, the straps on her dress are tied in knots to keep it up over her chest. She has the socks on and the plastic shoes. I'm not surprised; with the condition of her toes I'll be surprised if she ever wears the dress shoes. We start to leave, her brother drops the samosa and she picks it up for him. Something about him isn't quite right. My mind goes wild with different horrific scenarios of what could be happening in that little mud house.
Christine, in her new dress and her brother outside their home.


This time it's a different eye Doctor. He is a little friendlier than the last one and seems generally interested and concerned about Christine. Today she identifies the "P"' perfectly, but she cannot identify the "H" or the "R". We agree it's odd and he continues the exam, he conducts the same exam that the woman did a few days earlier, he also does a few more tests. In the end he tells me, "she says she doesn't have a problem and her eyes look beautiful on the inside." I say, "that's great!" Then I ask what he thinks the problem is? He says she just doesn't know certain letters. I tell him the little bit that I know about her home life and we discuss that while Christine fiddles with the strings on her dress. I wonder again about the brother, about her home life. Teacher Chantel told me that Christine is the only girl in the house, so she's responsible for all of the cooking and the washing. At ten years old, she is cooking, cleaning, and gathering firewood, fetching water, all of it, for a family of six. I wonder how hard it would be to concentrate on school, with all those responsibilities, when you are hungry or possibly abused or have a multitude of other things going on in your life.

Christine has very good vision. That's a good thing. Though, now I don't know what to do. It was supposed to be an easy fix. She gets glasses and suddenly she can read and is a star student. We head back to her home with bananas, bread and avocados. We sit under a big tree in her yard and I write the letters out in a notebook. She copies, a whole page of capital letter "A" and small letter "a". I sit with her through the letter "D" to make sure she understands to fill the whole page. I try to explain slowly that her eyes are very good, she needs to work very hard at school to learn her letters and to learn to read so she can pass her exams. I know that her mother will not keep coming up with school fees for her if she has to repeat P3 over and over again. It is very common for kids to repeat grades here. It was confusing at first, walking into the first grade glass with students almost as tall as I am standing next to six year olds. I also know that if this girl drops out of school at age ten, there is no future for her. She will be living in this very mud home, digging jiggers out of her feet for the rest of her life.
Reading and Writing with Christine under the big tree in her yard.

The rest of the week, I drop in on Christine. Each time she is happy to see me and comes running up to hug me when she seems me coming up the trail. Finally on my fifth visit I meet her mother, of course she doesn't speak English, so we greet each other and ask over and over how each other are, then I carry on my visit with Christine. I read with her, work on her alphabet and try to imagine what is going on in her mind as we sit and repeat the words over and over and over, all the while hoping something will "click" and she'll get it. As I was leaving her brother brought me an empty package of malaria medicine and with his broken English asked me to buy him more. "My head is paining!" he said. After we finished reading Christine and I were leaving to go to the pharmacy and the brother, along with the eight neighborhood kids that had gathered and read the books with us, follow us down the path to the road. He says, "next time you come, I want a bicycle." What do I look like Santa Clause?! I look at him and tell him, "the medicine, yes. the bicycle, no." When we got to town, we use the Pharmacist as a translator and I tell Christine I'm leaving and I'll be back in June. Her response, "I want my head shaved!" All this time she's been trying to tell me something about her hair and I assumed she wanted me to buy her hair extensions! We went across the street and got her head shaved for forty cents.

Today, a month later, I’m working with ten third graders. Christine and two other boys are the ones who struggle the most. Bruno and Enoch are as far behind, or more, as Christine. Bruno can recite his alphabet, if he starts at the beginning. He cannot identify or write a single letter on his own.  When he’s stuck, it is Christine who helps him. I smile at her proudly when she tells him what the next letter is. She can’t for the life of her, remember the letter “G”, otherwise she can say, write and identify the entire alphabet. Teacher Chantel tells me that she sees a change in Christine, she seems happier and she is picking up more things in class. I can only hope it is true. Christine’s mother has agreed to let Christine be a boarder at school. That means Christine can concentrate on school Monday thru Friday, then go home on the week-end and help her mother with the domestic work. I have agreed to buy her a mattress, sheets, blanket, soap and a basin for bathing. Those are all the things that are required to be a boarder at school.

Christine has a long, hard road ahead of her, she has a lot of catching up to do, but she is capable. Another valuable lesson I've learned here; life isn't fair and it isn't easy. The progress I see already is encouraging. Once she becomes a boarder I believe she will soar!